June 3, 2009
As Little A grows and learns new skills each day, I have really begun to notice the relationship between her and Sassy evolving. Sassy has been such a wonderful big sister. From the beginning, she's never showed any sort of jealousy or mean-spirit towards Little A. We had a little bit of acting out on Sassy's part in response to the transition, but never directed at her sister. Not once.
Now that little A is starting to get mobile and have a greater interest in toys, it has been so fun to watch the two of them interact. Little A pretty much worships the ground Sassy walks on. Already. Her eyes track Sassy's every move, she tried to physically follow her around all day, and everything that Sassy does or says or sings is funny. Hysterically funny. It just lights me up to hear her crack up at her big sister. No one can make her laugh quite like Sassy can.
Sassy is beginning to realize, however, that she has to share her things more and more. We make it a point to let each girl have some of their own things that are for their hands only. But, the vast majority of the toys are fair game. Of course, Sassy has an easy time "convincing" Little A to trade with her if she happens to have something that Sassy wants. For now. Little A is beginning to really assert herself with Sassy. If Sassy is up in her personal space, she says so! Sometimes, if Sassy takes a toy from her, Little A will scream and cry. I've found myself reminding Sassy to wait her turn or telling her to give a toy back to her sister. Wow. The time has come.
I grew up as an only child. I've never had the joy (or annoyance) of having a sibling. It's very interesting to me to see how their bond is unfolding over time. I want to do my best to encourage them to have a healthy, loving relationship. I want them to grow up knowing they always have their sister to turn to. That someone will always have their back in this great big world. I want them to always know that, no matter what, they will always have a best friend.
I truly hope I can be successful at laying out and nurturing this type of relationship between them. After all, what's better than a sister?